new year resolution: more cold blooded and clear headed.

I have been an emotional guy all this while and finally matured to somewhat somewhere less emotional. But this is not enough, I need to slowly hardened this emotions for interrupting my work. Throughout history, negative emotions like arrogance, hatred and frustration caused great people to fall. I just realized it actually takes a lot of bloody effort to just say you don't care. Guess my blood is still kinda warm :P

I have been a fool who is always unaware of the things going around me. I am always fooled into turning round and round by people; although sometimes intentionally but somehow one way or another I am gradually becoming a real fool. I still need to learn when to talk and when to "appear" and when to say the right things at the right time.

Things I learn from driving.

This is a picture I took in Taiwan, Taipei. It is a picture of their guard of honor, along with Joseph and me. It has nothing to do with my topic; but it is a picture I wish to share.

My driving instructor is also a mentor on life. To him, life is probably a high way, not an expressway. There may be times you need to slow down; but that doesn't mean its time for you to off the engine. Slowing down in life doesn't mean turning off your engine and die. It just requires you to take a tempo on different things.


You may have overshot the right turn, but its okay; a detour will still get back on the road. We always blame ourselves when things go wrong; but we do not realize the amount of effort taken to self-blame is just another waste of time. It is important to do self-reflection once in a while; but not all the time. We should always spend the time looking for another route to detour to get back on track instead of blaming your own retard reaction.


Even when you come to a complete stop or rest, you still mustn't keep your eyes off the road or your hands off the steering wheel. Resting is a must for everyone; even for the best driver. Resting is a break for some one who is about to start another journey or continue his journey; not as though as your car is going for overhauling. Even when resting; you must always fix your eyes at your destination and on the road.


Grabbing the steering wheel too hard will only cause the car to wobble; a certain amount of lax must be given to the steering wheel. Its the same for relationships; a certain amount of space is needed for everyone. Be it the steering wheel or your partner, space is needed not for free wheeling, but for smooth journey.


Always do one thing at a time. Lets face it, only one in a Billion of us are Initial D drivers; the rest of us are better off as normal drivers. It is better for us to concentrate on one action at a time to avoid ending up in a confused state or worst; the engine resting on you. :)

There is a time to accelerate and a time to slow down. What gear to use when going into this turn and what speed to slow down to when going into the turn. Judgment on this issues are of vital importance. We must learn when to accelerate, brake or slow down. Achieving a constant speed is the ideal for safe driving, but that would probably be too boring.


On the road, slow down when others slow down. Accelerate when others accelerate. Give way when others speed; get a note book ready in case of accidents (lol). We need to accommodate and tolerate one another on the road in order to reach our destination safely. Being considerate, accommodating to others doesn't mean we must tolerate all of their nonsense. This again is another issue of judgment.

My question to you, is "Are you a good driver?" I am learning to be one though.

A Joke with the Driving Instructor

I don't know if this is gonna spark any rumors but this is simply too funny to be known only to me. I started learning driving today from Jean's uncle (Father's elder brother). Forget about ice-breaking and stuff like that, he drove me to stadium link and started learning from there.

So, he taught me the left and right turns, acceleration and brakes and stuff like that. Then he started asking ,"so, one of your friends learn from my brother?"

"er, actually Jean is my poly school mate."

"oh oh, she is my niece you know?? Okay, let go of the accelerator bit by bit, get ready to change gear, press the break a bit to around half, ar...correct....so Jean is your girlfriend?"

(got shocked, I ZHAM the break) "NO LAR!"

*STUNNED* He showed me that one in a million stunned face then slowly says, "Oh ok ok, don't do that again. Now we try again. go back to square one, press the clutch and press the accelerator and slowly let go of the clutch."

He continued telling me this ,"I used to teach one of my niece friends. I remember he is her boyfriend or something, his name is Zi something de. I think from a certain university. ok, stop here. Pull up the hand brake. wait ar.... I search (went through his books, AR! His name is Zi Bing!"

"orh......that guy still in army la uncle."

"Aiya, as long she happy can le"

This really made me laugh all the way home.

Cultivate Friendship

I just happened to be in another depression when I came across this book in the library. I came across this book which really happens to drop on my legs while I was taking out another book in the bookshelf (language sector). I don't know why the book is there but its title is "100 simple secrets of happy people", oh geesh, don't start laughing behind your screens. I really think it was fate this book when this book shouldn't belong in the language sector with it dropping on my leg. So I started reading, to be honest it wasn't a self-help book at all; to put it in more conveniently, I think it is a compilation of psychology research data. I come across this page which says ,"cultivate friendship".

here goes:

Close relationships, more than personal satifaction or one's view of the world as a whole, are the most meaningful factors in happiness. I f you feel close to other people, you are four times as likely to feel good about yourself than if you do not feel close to anyone. (Magen, Birenbaum, and Perry 1996)

(HuiPing, its not what you think, but this is for you)Happy people do not experience one success after another and unhappy people , one failure after another. Instead, surveys show that happy and unhappy people tend to have had very similar life experiences. The difference is that the average unhappy person spends more than twice as much time thinking about unpleasant events in their lives, while happy people tend to seek and rely upon information that brightens their personal out-look. (Lyubomirsky 1994)

I don't really remember most of the happy things I have been through but it says here that both kinds of people do things that create and reinforce their moods. What comes around, goes around. be happy.

being left out

It sucks when you are being left out. :( It really does. Especially when you don't have any other friends in this area. I keep harping on it because it brings back some really bad memories.I really thought you guys would at least ask. It really destroyed my day. the funny part is you guys are ACTUALLY asking me to dinner to discuss about YOUR TRIP? Perhaps I sound like a little baby whining for attention but, I really have enough of being left out since union days. Hui Ping, I am sorry, I really can't wait for the day these guys surprise me. But I have learn well that I should never have pinned hope on having any friend. I am probably naive. LOL. too naive. people, save your comments.

I no longer need any critics; I am my own.

Words

On Sunday morning, I was asking my sis to spare me 20 bucks as I am lazy to route to the other side of the neighborhood to draw out cash. Then came the sentence then left me smiling for the whole morning," Brother, I will get you a sub-card soon." That really left me smiling to myself while she made her way out of the house.

Then she left the house to join my parents and Lil Sister for Sunday breakfast. Then my dad suddenly came up to use the latrine. After he used the latrine, we went down to the car park together and I begged him to give me a lift. The came another sentence that left me motivated till now ,"son, the location you are heading is not along the way. I will get a weekend car once you get your license." I was so happy and started walking off to the bus stop despite knowing I was late.

Here comes the joke, I think my elder sister and father are great with using words and distracting me from my request but leaving me a happy guy for the whole day. Somehow I have yet to learn the tricks of neutralizing their words and yet to master their level 100 "distraction" skill.

My joy of Christmas

After much debate, planning, meeting, resource management, information gathering and location analysis; my family has finally decided to go on a 4-5 day tour in Malaysia. Therefore, my Christmas plan is not to have any plan at all!!!

First of all, nice to meet you all, My name is wen han (trying to re-intro myself). If possible, please call me by my Chinese name from now on. thanks. I was thinking the other day after a delightful interrogation period with the old birds that maybe I should change this blog's name to "thoushallnotTALK.blogspot.com"

Christmas has always been a season of giving and cherishing for me. After watching the Last Lecture and Vice-presidential debate between Biden and Palin over and over again; I have attain some miraculous enlightenment.

I have always been a sadistic, perverse and pessimistic person. From now on, I will change. My new year resolution is to be a brighter and happier man. And guys, trust me; I am not desperate or any where along that line in your imagination.